Sunday, May 31, 2009

你能救我吗 ?

关于修读硕士的问题,我与家人(除了爸爸)的偏见越来越严重,不排除冷战或口水战一触即发。我想继续读下去,她们却反对

早在今年农历新年期间,我与家人一同拜访亲戚。令我感到意外的是,每一户亲戚知道我将在今年毕业后,都纷纷向我父母祝贺,还说我可以出来做工减轻负担,我妈更不客气地说:“是啊~”。就从那一刻开始,我就知道可以修读硕士的机会几乎等于零。不过,由于自己的成绩尚可让我继续读下去,再加上自己很有兴趣, 所以不管三七二十一,来一个先斩后奏,报名硕士课程去了。

一个月又一个月的过去,终于来到了六月,也就是所谓的危险期。从农历新年到现在,我都没告诉她们我想读硕士。由于有读硕士这个念头,所以假期找工作方面(建筑业)并不怎么积极。直到昨天,我妈突然问起我朋友也找不到工作吗,我就趁机会说他们还想读硕士,结果。。。相信你都不喜欢听的一句话出来了。。。。。。

" 还想读 ?!! 读那些垃圾东西干嘛,没想看父母几辛苦,都读到这么高了,把机会让给弟妹们更好 ! 以现在的行情,出来做工拿经验更好,攻读硕士也只不过是在学垃圾知识而已,又还浪费时间。。。" 就这么一句话,你试猜想如果我告诉她们我想读硕士,结果会怎样 ?

当我听到我妈一直在唠唠叨叨那一句话,心里很火,既然一开始你就认定我读的是垃圾课程,那当初我中五一毕业就出来工作好了,为何硬要把我塞进大学三年之久,浪费时间 ? 我真不明白,天下哪有父母亲是不希望自己的儿女继续深造,考获更高的学位的 ? 唯有孩子不想读,父母才作罢。但非常讽刺的是,孩子不是读书的料,有些父母还是肯浪费一笔钱把孩子送进大学或私人学院。反观,想攻读更高学位的人,父母就偏偏不给。

给一般超穷家户来说,捱到学士读不起硕士可以理解。家庭经济能力好过他们一点的我,想攻读硕士却得不到家人的支持,可说是全马很少见到的事。更令我 " 赌懒 "的是,我妈竟然过份到须要讲我背后话,趁我在房时,悄悄地跟我姐投诉说我不愿找工,然后又什么什么的。。。以为我没听见 ?!!

不是不想找份真正有意义的工作来做,而是想到还要攻读硕士,不想到该公司做不到两个月又辞职不干,白白浪费了自己日后在该家公司上班的机会,而且随时会被公司列入黑名单。所以我正找着一份日后对自己事业没影响的工作,并不是没找工作。

大家对我找工作的态度感到不满,我接受;但想读硕士呢 ? 难道也是我的错 ? 毕竟理大的硕士课程最快也只须要一年,别的科系读了4年才拿一个学士学位;我的科系读4年就一个硕士学位,一举两得,何乐不为 ? 再说,一切学费我都是从政府贷款机构借来付的,又没用到父母一分钱,以后债务也是自己还的,真不懂老妈与姐为何死都不让我读下去。。。

之前收到大家的安慰与开导,非常感谢大家 ! 你们所谓的互相沟通,我会尽力而为,不过,生存在“女儿国”的我,看来还是凶多吉少。(因为家里的女人全都不支持我,老爸又不在槟城

也许大家还会有一个建议,就是先做工,做一段时间,有钱了,再修读硕士。老兄,现实点好不好。。。不要还活在虚拟的世界了。你一旦入行好几年以上,而且有了稳定的收入,那时候摆在你面前的有硕士文凭金钱,你会选择哪一样 ? 更何况你辛辛苦苦一手打来的江山,你肯就这样放弃事业而重选学业 ? 除非是你退休的时候。。。

现在我手头上只剩下最后一张皇牌了,那就是我爸。就等到走投无路时才用。如果连这张皇牌也站在 "女儿国" 那边,那我该怎么办 ? 翻脸 ?!! 离家出走 ?!! 还是脱离关系 ?!!

如果你有什么意见,可以到我的 comment box 留言,让我看看你们怎么想。。。

6 comments:

凭翅飞翔 said...

一边做part time,一边读吧。反正一年而已。很快过的啦。 到时请他们来你的MASTER convo, 一定没人敢讲你了!

Unknown said...

I only have one very 老土的 idea nia: "Try to convince them with the benefits of studying master and oso tell them that you are very interested in it". If really really can't, em... bo huat lo... may be can try to tell them that you will go find a job now but part time one and will study at the same time too.

Unknown said...

Sorry for hear dat ur parent din support u for continue study master.. This is an impossible and unwise decision as a parent n family.. They should support u since study master is ur wish so dat u can have a higher level of certificate for future.. As we noe, nowadays our country ppl mostly are graduate frm degree, if we dun have higher qualification even when we find job we may face many competition frm other ppl.. As a family member, they should care of ur feeling, can't b so self-fish, care of themselve only.. I noe nowadays parents working are suffered, but now u oledi hav sister who has been working which can temporary support ur family, i really dun understand y they din support u.. In addition, study one year master is very faz only ma as ur result is permitted and u oso wan study and the course fees is mainly supported by government... Furthermore, as economic now oso quiet bad, further study is oso a gud and nice choice to avoid can't find job and being wasted time.. If i was ur family member, i sure support u no matter what is ur decision as long as the thngs u do is conducive for urself and future.. Anyway, u juz try to persuade ur family member and sit down to try discuss wth them when u all oledi calm down... I blieves finally they will suport u de... If anythng i can help, pls kindly let me noe and i will try my best to help n share wth u...Dun b so stress la, be smile and happy ma..^_^ Frm:Teddybeh

Vincent Kung said...

to su ping , Chun ho and Beh :

谢谢你们的支持,part time job 也是不错的选择,但最重要还是得想办法让我妈改变主意,因为一切命运都由她掌控中。。。

I WANT FREEDOM ~ !!!!!!

凭翅飞翔 said...

为什么一定要通过她?就来上课不就可以了吗?
希望可以借ptptn.. 那就没问题了!
我有金钱烦恼,所以ptptn对我很重要!哈哈

Vincent Kung said...

唉!你不懂的啦。。。
在家里没有自由~ everything is under my mum's control T_T